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Was your adoptive/foster mother a "Mommy-Figure"?

Kerry — Fri, 13 Jul 2007 15:36:34 -0600

* Yes\n* No\n* Only in public\n* I never thought about it\n

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If you were given the option, would you have wanted to be adopted?

Harris H. — Sun, 08 Jul 2007 00:42:39 -0600

* Absolutely!\n* I'm glad I was removed, I just wish better parent-replacements were found for me\n* I don't know enough about my birth-parents to make an educated choice\n* Absolutely not; I wish my parents kept me and got help if they needed it.\n* I was put in foster-care and never formally adopted\n

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Is adoption the best option Child Protective Services has to offer families in crisis?

Kerry — Sat, 12 Apr 2008 07:05:45 -0600

* Yes\n* No\n* What other options are there - orphanages or foster care?!\n

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My father was in the military

Kerry — Sun, 22 Jul 2007 08:02:51 -0600

* Yes\n* No\n* Both fathers were in the military\n* I'm not sure\n

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Were you a "Black Market" Baby?

Kerry — Mon, 14 Jan 2008 09:36:04 -0700

* Yes\n* No\n* I don't know\n

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Should ALL adoptees be eligible for FREE genetic screening and counseling?

Kerry — Fri, 30 Nov 2007 05:04:50 -0700

* Yes, that way certain diseases and cancers will be known to be high risk factors for that person.\n* No, it's much too costly, and why scare people when you don't have to?\n* I'm not sure, but it sounds like a good option.\n

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Do you believe you have been hurt or victimized by the Adoption Industry?

Kerry — Tue, 08 Apr 2008 12:21:13 -0600

* Yes\n* No\n* I haven't but I know at least one person who has been hurt through adoption/foster-care services\n

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Do you know if your parents or grandparents had/have Alzheimer's?

Kerry — Tue, 11 Mar 2008 18:30:12 -0600

* Yes\n* No\n* I have no idea!\n

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Have you been harassed, stalked, mocked, discredited, banned or bullied by members of the adoption industry?

Kerry — Fri, 21 Mar 2008 09:42:35 -0600

* Yes, many times, in many situations\n* No, never.\n* Yes, but the bullying has happened only within certain internet networks/forums.\n

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What are your thoughts on Adoptive Parenting Classes?

neophyte — Sun, 24 Feb 2008 09:09:02 -0700

* It's a great way for new parents to learn about the needs of their new children\n* It's a way to make more money through adoption services\n* It seems biased; Parenting classes should be available to ALL parents, not just to those adopting children \n* \n* \n

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If you suddenly got hurt or sick, do you have someone to take good care of you?

Kerry — Sat, 23 Jun 2007 07:27:05 -0600

* Absolutely\n* Yes, I think so\n* I'm not sure\n* I don't think so\n* I'm all I have\n

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Both parents and 1 sibling have been found, and you're allowed a reunion with only one person. What do you choose for yourself?

Kerry — Sat, 12 Jan 2008 20:00:22 -0700

* A reunion with my mother\n* A reunion with my father\n* A reunion with my sibling\n* I refuse any/all reunion opportunities\n* I let someone else choose, accepting that decision for myself.\n* Pretend I never got the notification in the first place \n

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Is "child placement" a risk-taking business that needs standardized care and long-term investigation?

Kerry — Wed, 09 Jan 2008 05:27:45 -0700

* Yes\n* No\n* I never thought about it before\n

Child abuse

How many have met their birth-parents?

blanche — Wed, 15 Aug 2007 03:16:26 -0600

* I met my mother\n* I met my father\n* I met both parents\n* I'm afraid to meet them\n* I'm not sure how I feel about meeting them\n* There's no point in meeting them\n

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Comparing myself to non-adoptees, I find...

Niels — Thu, 15 Nov 2007 14:05:14 -0700

* differences have decreased over time.\n* differences have increased over time.\n* \n* \n* \n

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When you were little, did you experience many spontaneous nose bleeds?

Kerry — Tue, 02 Oct 2007 03:10:47 -0600

* Yes\n* No\n* Now that you mention it, I think I did\n

Parenting

Is adoption legalized child traficking?

Niels — Thu, 18 Oct 2007 00:00:00 -0600

* yes\n* no\n

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Should children removed from their parents (placed in foster-care) be returned home to reunite with their families one day?

Kerry — Mon, 03 Sep 2007 05:39:04 -0600

* Yes\n* No\n* Aren't they?\n

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Were you an only child?

Kerry — Sun, 19 Aug 2007 08:02:11 -0600

* Yes\n* No\n* I was raised as one\n* I discovered I was born an only child, but raised among siblings\n

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How many adoptees discovered they were true orphans (they have no surviving blood relatives)?

Kerry — Fri, 17 Aug 2007 04:17:49 -0600

* That's true for me - my whole biological family died\n* I was adopted, but I'm not an orphan\n* I was put in foster-care so that doesn't apply to me\n

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What type of relationship do you have with your adoptive mother?

Kerry — Wed, 25 Jul 2007 04:08:05 -0600

* She tries to be too close. She wants to talk about everything. I feel like she wants to be more like a friend than a mother\n* We are very close. She always listens to me when I have a problem, and her advice is usually very good.\n* I'm sure she wishes we were closer, but I prefer discussing personal matters with another family member.\n* We are close only when she wants us to be.\n* We are estranged\n

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Growing-up, did you have a family member who made you laugh?

Kerry — Wed, 08 Aug 2007 06:49:44 -0600

* Yes (please explain)\n* Not really, I was usually quiet, shy and very serious\n* I would smile and even laugh, but it was mostly to fit-in with the rest of the family if they were laughing \n* There was nothing fun or funny about my childhood.\n

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When I think of "home", I think of:

Kerry — Fri, 10 Aug 2007 07:42:06 -0600

* Where I was born\n* Where I was raised\n* Where I am loved\n* Being alone\n

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How many know if they were adopted through foster-care?

Kerry — Sun, 12 Aug 2007 03:45:13 -0600

* I was adopted immediately after birth\n* I was placed in an orphanage/care facility/Children's Home for some time, then I was adopted\n* A relative took me in, (grandparent(s)/aunt/uncle) and they adopted me\n* I was adopted by my foster parents\n* I was placed in foster homes, but never adopted.\n* I don't know \n* Other (please explain)\n

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Do you have memories of first meeting your adoptive/foster parents?

Kerry — Tue, 07 Aug 2007 08:44:18 -0600

* Yes, I believe I do\n* No\n* I have vague memories of people and places, but I'm not sure who or what it all means\n* I have very early memories of meeting my family, but I keep them to myself\n

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Describe your foster/adoptive mom

Kerry — Fri, 03 Aug 2007 07:00:06 -0600

* She's was loving, affectionate and a lot of fun\n* She was overly protective and sheltering\n* She was doting, yet neglected my own needs\n* She got moody and bossy a lot \n* She was one person in public, but another person in private\n* I hated her\n

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I feel betrayed by

Kerry — Wed, 01 Aug 2007 03:54:00 -0600

* My birth mother\n* My adoptive mother\n* My biological father\n* My adoptive father\n* The Church and God\n* Several family members\n* My family, their church, but not God\n* The government/state agencies not doing their job as promised\n* Several of these choices\n

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What were you told about your natural mother, (what was the reason given for your separation)?

Kerry — Fri, 27 Jul 2007 06:25:02 -0600

* Both parents died\n* One parent died, and the other could not take care of me\n* One parent left, and the other could not care for me\n* My mother didn't want me\n* Other (please explain)\n

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