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Have you done any of the following forms of punishment to yourself?

Kerry — Sat, 28 Jul 2007 06:26:30 -0600

* picked at wounds, "to see if it hurts"\n* pulled your own body hair out\n* banged or punched body parts\n* used fire or knives to test pain\n* tasted caustic/dangerous/poisonous substances out of "curiosity"\n* deprived myself of food or sex\n* I have done more than one choice\n

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The Criminal Mind

Reactive Attachment Disorder Support

Kerry — Wed, 15 Aug 2007 13:17:03 -0600

Below is a chart of RAD Resources for Adults/Parents with children with reactive attachment disorder.

But what about adults who have been abandoned and abused by their parents? What sort of networking resources are there for adults with attachment and trust-issues? This section is dedicated to the adult who has difficulty trusting others because he/she was neglected, abused or abandoned during childhood.

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Personal Inner Loss

Kerry — Wed, 29 Nov 2006 21:05:49 -0700

I began my study of Adoption & its affect on human behavior over five years ago. It (the carnage) had no name that read: Reactive Attachment Disorder. To this day, I still challenge the act and process that describes a system that has broken the lives and families of billions of babies. Adoption , as it exists, requires more adaptations to more people than it is worth!

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Have you been told it's difficult to approach you?

Kerry — Sun, 17 Feb 2008 21:16:39 -0700

* Yes\n* No\n* Sometimes\n

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Have you ever lost a loved-one to suicide?

Kerry — Mon, 28 Apr 2008 17:03:54 -0600

* yes\n* no\n* \n* \n* \n

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Did your parents ever get rid of a pet they didn't like?

Kerry — Fri, 08 Feb 2008 12:11:22 -0700

* Yes\n* No\n* \n* \n* \n

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Do you see yourself as a "loser"?

Kerry — Sun, 13 Apr 2008 12:57:37 -0600

* Absolutely not\n* In some regards, and in certain ways, yes I feel like "a loser", but that doesn't bother me\n* I'm not sure if I see myself as "a loser" or "a failure", I just know I'm not happy and I feel empty a lot\n* \n* \n

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Describe your dental health

Kerry — Sat, 04 Aug 2007 19:46:20 -0600

* My teeth and mouth are very healthy and in great shape\n* I have one or two fillings, but who doesn't?\n* My teeth are a mess (due to neglect) and in need of repair\n* I'm in the process of having professional dental work done due to years of neglect\n

Bartender !?!

Do you use alcohol, drugs, food or sex as a means to cope with loneliness?

Kerry — Sat, 22 Dec 2007 08:01:52 -0700

* Yes\n* No\n* Sometimes\n

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let's talk about sex, baby

Kerry — Sat, 03 Feb 2007 04:44:39 -0700

I've been reading some of the posts from the RAD I had help moderate. This one really hit home, for me. HA! Get it??? "hit", "struck me hard"... I kill myself with my inside jokes sometimes... anyhoo.. the topic is Rough Sex and the person with Attachment Disorders. Do they go hand-in-hand? If so, why?

Intimate relationships

When I think of "home", I think of:

Kerry — Fri, 10 Aug 2007 07:42:06 -0600

* Where I was born\n* Where I was raised\n* Where I am loved\n* Being alone\n

Child placement

Are you comfortable having your photograph taken?

Kerry — Sun, 25 May 2008 04:50:22 -0600

* Yes\n* Not at all\n* Only if I know I am looking my best; I don't like pictures that make me look bad or ugly or give me a false-image\n* \n* \n

RADical thinking

The Detached Path

Kerry — Wed, 23 Apr 2008 05:08:43 -0600

Fate's free will to survive and thrive.

The choices we make determine the person we become. But what about "the choices" that were made FOR us, setting us on a path detached and isolated from all that's safe and familiar? How and why does misery stay alive for so long, when no one really wants to feel the discomforts of pain?

RADical thinking

Primal Beings: Rage and Detachment

Kerry — Mon, 12 May 2008 07:45:58 -0600

I have two types of friends: one type thinks and re-thinks everything to death; the other type lives life without doing much heavy thinking because feelings guide their actions.

I'm stuck in the middle, over-thinking my feelings, afraid to do any living that brings me personal happiness. I have been trained to accept crap as a life-long condition, and as long as I detach from the pain, I'm ok.

The Bleeding Grounds

The Language of the Adult RAD

Kerry — Fri, 29 Feb 2008 14:24:47 -0700

I found a very interesting and telling link about adults with RAD, and it came as no surprise to me when I read the following question about unresolved Adult RAD:

Every message I see is about adults, who have children, with RAD.

Since I dont have children, or a boyfriend, or a husband, I'm clearly not looking for help for my kids, or anyone else..............except for myself. Are there ANY treatment centers for adults with unresolved RAD, in the Baltimore area?

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Adult RAD's and their baby-steps towards secure intimacy

Kerry — Mon, 28 Apr 2008 05:09:24 -0600

I've been reading a lot of posts on a website that teaches sex/porn addicts how to reform their detached sex-deeds through non-orgasmic learning. The author of the book and website wrote the following post-reply that made me think about the Adult RAD's Response.

She wrote: [In response to a question about the shelf-life of her book's suggested techniques]

Intimate relationships

Three Days Grace - Animal I Have Become

Kerry — Wed, 04 Jun 2008 09:34:40 -0600

The Official video can be found @ http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jbHn1Pgj6Zk

Full lyrics without interruption:
I can't escape this hell
So many times i've tried
But i'm still caged inside
Somebody get me through this nightmare
I can't control myself

So what if you can see the darkest side of me?
No one will ever change this animal I have become
Help me believe it's not the real me
Somebody help me tame this animal
(This animal, this animal)

I can't escape myself
(I can't escape myself)
So many times i've lied
(So many times i've lied)
But there's still rage inside

The Criminal Mind

A few words about ADDICTIONS

Kerry — Fri, 16 May 2008 02:18:22 -0600

Coffee, cookies, chocolate. Sports, sex, smoking, Drugs, diets, drinking. Pick a demon, any demon.... which one claims the life of someone you know? Add a dick; shun. Addiction.

Intimate relationships

Three Days Grace - Pain

Kerry — Wed, 04 Jun 2008 08:51:16 -0600

Pain, without love
Pain, I can't get enough
Pain, I like it rough
'Cause I'd rather feel pain than nothing at all

You're sick of feeling numb
You're not the only one
I'll take you by the hand
And I'll show you a world that you can understand
This life is filled with hurt
When happiness doesn't work
Trust me and take my hand
When the lights go out you will understand

Pain, without love
Pain, I can't get enough
Pain, I like it rough
'Cause I'd rather feel pain than nothing at all
Pain, without love
Pain, I can't get enough
Pain, I like it rough

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Should a person with a history of "mental illness" be allowed to enroll in a boot camp designed for military service?

Kerry — Mon, 02 Jun 2008 13:05:35 -0600

* Yes\n* No\n* It depends of the mental illness\n* \n* \n

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Herding the Flock: An American Industry Filled with Farm-Land Foundlings

Kerry — Fri, 30 May 2008 06:51:45 -0600

The American response to Baby Farming has been the following:

Child abuse

My father was in the military

Kerry — Sun, 22 Jul 2007 08:02:51 -0600

* Yes\n* No\n* Both fathers were in the military\n* I'm not sure\n

Child placement

Oppn 'horrified' at Indigenous foster care breakdown

Kerry — Tue, 27 May 2008 21:15:29 -0600

Australia

A report reveals Aboriginal children in state care are being shunted between guardians. (ABC TV)

Child placement

As a child, were you a victim of bullying?

Kerry — Mon, 26 May 2008 12:06:45 -0600

* All the time\n* Many times, but I kept it secret\n* Yes, but I was helped and protected by my parents\n* I can't remember being badly bullied by anyone\n* \n

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Coercive Restraint Therapies: A Dangerous Alternative Mental Health Intervention

Niels — Wed, 21 May 2008 17:34:18 -0600

from: pubmedcentral.nih.gov

Posted 08/09/2005
Jean Mercer, PhD

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Should ALL adoptees be eligible for FREE genetic screening and counseling?

Kerry — Fri, 30 Nov 2007 05:04:50 -0700

* Yes, that way certain diseases and cancers will be known to be high risk factors for that person.\n* No, it's much too costly, and why scare people when you don't have to?\n* I'm not sure, but it sounds like a good option.\n

Child placement

Growing-up, did any of the following abuses take place in your house/family?

Kerry — Thu, 24 Jan 2008 12:15:54 -0700

* Alcohol-abuse\n* Sexual-abuse\n* Physical-abuse\n* Neglect/abandonment\n* None of these\n* More than one of these\n

Child abuse