
A child of the swinging 60s’
a mother all alone,
no one to offer any help
and a father marked unknown.
However, could she keep her child?
When all around screamed shame,
society frowned upon it
and along adoption came.
A problem to correct
decisions for them to make,
unfit, unwed mother
give birth for them to take.
Middle class wealthy family
the balance seems just right,
rid the shameless mother
leave her nothing left to fight.
Baby goes to decent home
a husband and a wife,
never mind the mother
who gave that very life?
Even if a loving home
the child feels less than whole,
so many unanswered questions
fragmented in the soul.
Empty aching arms
two splintered lives to heal,
a past that’s gone forever
and years more pain to feel.
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"War and Peace"
Seems such an ironc twist to family values and a sign of the times, doesn't it?
While some families were sending their sons to war, others were protesting it and experiencing "free love".
Hey, guys... here's a newsflash: sex with girls is never free!
We - the children born to parental abandonment and shrewd salemanship are the by-products!
So how did we get mis-managed?
We got sold. Traded. Exchanged, and strangers are to blame for sending the wrong message to mothers who were scared and maybe even a little ashamed for having sex when maybe they should not have. Isn't it amazing how mothers got blamed for the pregnancy, when it took fathers to make a baby! Where were the men in all of this? Why is this pattern not more freightening to more people? After all, how much history needs to repeat itself before all hope is lost to the complete breakdown of all family-value of Mommy, Daddy and Baby makes Three?
True, with adoption, some babies got better replacements. They were lucky bastards, indeed.
However, many many more got worse, as only a closed era can promise. The fact that no numbers exist, and so many documents were doctored and sealed speaks volumes, doesn't it? Secrets and lies always have a way of seeping out, and that's the crying shame about the 'religious virtue' of adoption. Breaking one family to create another is morally wrong. Selling one baby to another human is morally wrong. How a religious order would confuse deeds and service with money and The Almighty is beyond my scope of understanding, but I digress.... because there is much more to tell about the Closed Era of Adoption, in the "swinging sixties".
Some mothers and babies never made it to see their birthdays... since Jane Doe got as far as a clinic door and got butchered by abortionists seeking money. Perhaps worse yet is the scared desperate girl who would take a a coat hanger, or other sharp instrument to herself, and try to "rid her problem". Yes, "freelove" is so fun and sexy, isn't it, girls and boys?
How's that for a little American History not taught in our children's classes these days?
What month would these life-lessons that fit in... between Adoption Awareness (November), Black History (February) or National Child Abuse Awareness Month (April).
Tina - wonderful poem.
Tina - wonderful poem. Thankyou.