Are you a Natural Parent?

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Parenthood is one of those things that's a Gift... it's Chosen FOR us, by God... simply by the roll of the fate of our own uterus.

I believe in Natural Selection, and I see it exampled through the woman's body, it's called miscarriage and infertility.

Some women were born to become mommies.

Some were not.

Some were born to become teachers.

Some were born to become doctors.

Some were born to become writers, musicians, artists, builders or leaders in other areas.

Some were born to sit home and help mommies tend to the children, because mommies need help.

Each person born is born for a reason and purpose, according to a greater plan that goes beyond our own understanding.

At least that's what I think.

That's how I always saw the Family Circle, as an Outsider.

All I knew is, I missed having my own mommy and daddy.  In my mind, they were ghosts from the past, and I missed them.  Desperately.  I mourned them in my dreams, and birthdays were the worst.  the very very worst for me.

I hated not belonging, and I hated having to take-care of a woman I had to call "Mommy".  It did NOT feel at all "natural".

I resented each and every day I had to serve her, when I needed a mommy to tend to my bleeding wounds.

I am still healing, but I'm used to tending to myself.

I am self-taught.

If there is one life-lesson an adoptee knows it is this:  Life is not at all about what we want or need, it's what we get, whether we like it or not.

Not by choice, but by adoption's design.