I wish we could vote on more than one choice, because with my mother's moods came many faces that her friends and family never got to see. I hated that, because I got them all, and it used to scare the shit out of me.
This is what bugs the hell out of me with non-adopted people. They say "all people have these sort of family problems".
If that's true, then why is there a middle-man butting his hand in a family's private life in the first place? Why are babies being sold to couples if the same family-problems are developing, anyway?
Who's to say my natural mother would not have been a much better mother to me than that lunatic some social worker found for me? In fact, I wouldn have been better off with a lunatic natural mom, because at least I'd like to think I would have had real extended family to escape to. I had no one. I wasn't an "orphan" until the adoption papers sold me as one.
It's too late for me, and the millions, if not billions like me, my age and older. We have to figure it out for ourselves what adoption means to us. From the looks of all the new books coming out, the real-life experience through the eyes of the child has not been as great as the agencies promised the parents.
How many more mother's babies need to be sold before the general public realizes something is wrong with selling children for profit to other women?
My adoptive mother worked full-time, (as a teacher) and complained each day doing it. My memory of her was that of a miserable complaining unhappy woman who was never satisfied with anything or any one. I pity her, but realize her problems are her own, not mine. It took me decades to learn that.
A good mother.... one who is involved, loving and nurturing to her children is priceless. Period.
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More than one choice
I wish we could vote on more than one choice, because with my mother's moods came many faces that her friends and family never got to see. I hated that, because I got them all, and it used to scare the shit out of me.
This is what bugs the hell out of me with non-adopted people. They say "all people have these sort of family problems".
If that's true, then why is there a middle-man butting his hand in a family's private life in the first place? Why are babies being sold to couples if the same family-problems are developing, anyway?
Who's to say my natural mother would not have been a much better mother to me than that lunatic some social worker found for me? In fact, I wouldn have been better off with a lunatic natural mom, because at least I'd like to think I would have had real extended family to escape to. I had no one. I wasn't an "orphan" until the adoption papers sold me as one.
It's too late for me, and the millions, if not billions like me, my age and older. We have to figure it out for ourselves what adoption means to us. From the looks of all the new books coming out, the real-life experience through the eyes of the child has not been as great as the agencies promised the parents.
How many more mother's babies need to be sold before the general public realizes something is wrong with selling children for profit to other women?
Can you find the error in the following statement?