I voted for John who was lied to. Adoption: Uncharted Waters by David Kirchner speaks to the deleterious effect of lies on the adopted. With such an institution (as it developed in the 20th century) founded by someone the likes of Georgia Tann, its no wonder the lies continued on and continued on.
I remember the day I went to read my non-identifying information as if it was just yesterday. I remember being told the birthday I always celebrated was in fact, my Real Birthday. I remember thinking: "Huh? Why wouldn't my birthday be what I thought it was?"
Boy, was I in for a rude, cruel realization.
I know all things happen for a reason. I still struggle with the facts of my ficticious roots; I still try to understand what was, and what came to be Me.
I know there is Purpose in all that we do in our lives. My Search ended when I realized there was so little I understood about Adoption, and the laws that made it my reality.
I know I'm not alone in my sad confusion. What heppened in 1968, and why was I one of <how many?> born and sold that following year?
What could possibly be the reason for one mother to tell a child lies drenched with deceit about another ? Was it arranged as such? Did the powers behind the Closed Era of Adoption willfully spin webs of false accusations and wrongful assumptions just for the sake of better baby-selling? Didn't anyone think for just a moment, all secrets would be revealed, eventually?
I wonder just how many lives have been lost to a practice that promised Good Parents to a child who had none?
I was not an orphan; I was just made to feel like one.
I shudder to think who profited from so much misery sold under the guise of Chosen Children, and Catholic Chairty.
It's almost more appropriate to ask what is not a lie in adoption. It all starts with a lie. The persons that take care of you expect to be appreciated as a father and a mother, while they are not. The dynamics of that initial lie can become very complicated. I published an interesting article called Adoptive Parents: Fables, Facts, Fears which kind of explains the web of deceit adoption can be.
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lies, lies and more lies
The only thing that wasn't lied about was my gender.
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I voted for John who was lied to. Adoption: Uncharted Waters by David Kirchner speaks to the deleterious effect of lies on the adopted. With such an institution (as it developed in the 20th century) founded by someone the likes of Georgia Tann, its no wonder the lies continued on and continued on.
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I remember the day I went to read my non-identifying information as if it was just yesterday. I remember being told the birthday I always celebrated was in fact, my Real Birthday. I remember thinking: "Huh? Why wouldn't my birthday be what I thought it was?"
Boy, was I in for a rude, cruel realization.
I know all things happen for a reason. I still struggle with the facts of my ficticious roots; I still try to understand what was, and what came to be Me.
I know there is Purpose in all that we do in our lives. My Search ended when I realized there was so little I understood about Adoption, and the laws that made it my reality.
I know I'm not alone in my sad confusion. What heppened in 1968, and why was I one of <how many?> born and sold that following year?
What could possibly be the reason for one mother to tell a child lies drenched with deceit about another ? Was it arranged as such? Did the powers behind the Closed Era of Adoption willfully spin webs of false accusations and wrongful assumptions just for the sake of better baby-selling? Didn't anyone think for just a moment, all secrets would be revealed, eventually?
I wonder just how many lives have been lost to a practice that promised Good Parents to a child who had none?
I was not an orphan; I was just made to feel like one.
I shudder to think who profited from so much misery sold under the guise of Chosen Children, and Catholic Chairty.
I don't understand
What sort of things would be lied about in a person's adoption?
what's not a lie
It's almost more appropriate to ask what is not a lie in adoption. It all starts with a lie. The persons that take care of you expect to be appreciated as a father and a mother, while they are not. The dynamics of that initial lie can become very complicated. I published an interesting article called Adoptive Parents: Fables, Facts, Fears which kind of explains the web of deceit adoption can be.