"Once and for all": the finality of adoption
I just read something that sent chills down my spine:
Just wanted to let everyone know my sons adoption was finialized on Thursday..It was a very exciting day for us all..Christopher was so happy he is now a Duggar..
Now for the fun stuff..changing his name at school and everywhere else..lol http://www.digitalscrapbookplace.com/forum/showthread.php?t=1954&page=0
Knowing just how many illegal/corrupt means there are in the child-selling market, I find it incredibly offensive that there are adults celebrating and congratulating the removal of a parent's identity to a child!
If this adoptive parent's child was kidnapped/abducted... would she not try to hunt the criminal down, and spend sleepless nights wondering, "where is my _______?" Would she not repeat the child's name over and over again, hoping... praying... just saying the name out-loud will bring that child back home to her?
How would this adoptive parent feel if the unknown child-taker legally changed the name of her child, ensuring that name and face would never be seen or recognized as "her own"?
[Is there any worse fear or loss for a parent than losing a child to a kidnapping stranger?]
Do adoptive parents have any sense of what changing a child's name MEANS to those who were taken (stolen) and then adopted "legally"?
For what it's worth, in a world where black market babies STILL exist, I say it's a sad, heartbreaking day when yet another child's family and past is formally and forever removed, all because an adoptive parent wants an identity-change.
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Who wants to be a Duggar
Trying to find something to pun on that name, I used my obsessive/compulsive Google antics and immediate ended up on this site, which portrays the Arkansas version of the Von Trapp family. 17 children in total and number 18 on its way. In a few years time they probably have bred a complete symphony orchestra.
Isn't it weird how one Duggar couple needs to purchase children, while the other have enough to fill the entire Razorbacks stadium.
Being Me
In marriage women take the husband's name by choice; their family as extended for themselves and their soon to be children.
But even I grew up not wanting to be a xxxxxx, which I had no choice in...because I was born into their family. Should I have had a choice in which family was mine? I don't think there can ever be a time when a child of any age should be able to make a choice to change their biological family for another family of any type: adopted, foster, bio. etc.
Preservation of the biological family should be the mantra of this country, but this country chose to remove the word biological in the interests of being politically correct. And that preservation should be done IN the biological family and not in foster care with adoption as the threat hanging over everyones heads; or the carrot to hold in front of the foster family to get them to hang on...
NO ONE saw my abuse and therefore there was NO ONE to help me or my family; we lived states away from the rest of my family who maybe could have made a difference. I have a biological family, but I choose to be safe rather than be a part of them. And I do not want to be a Duggar.
IN A WORLD OF WHY,
Teddy