Pain-free adoptions???
I just read the most ridiculous selling-point a person could make for seeking adoption as a drug-free family-planning option.
Sure we have heard of in-vitro fertilization, sperm donors, Clomid and other medications as some routes taken for infertility treatment, but what about adoption?
It may not be the usual treating infertility problems, but at least it give a couple some hope to have kids and raise them to become outstanding adults. To many couples using this method, it may be viewed as the last choice after going through numerous infertility treatments after treatments. It does help kids that other do not want to be well take care and adopted by childless couples. This is destiny in the making.
These are some of the factors to consider when contemplating adoption:
You Will Not Experience Any Pain
You will not experience any pain as there is not need for needles and medication, not to mention side-effects as it is painless. However, you will face some temporary emotional imbalance as you make one of the most decision when adopting this action. http://www.barrysblog.net/642/how-to-have-a-baby-without-pain/
Maybe the adoptive parent escapes the pain from a trouble-free birthing experience, but I can seriously say the messed-up child that results from such an adult mindset will be paying that price ten-fold later on in life. Jabbing the skin with needles, using instruments of torture, and seeking drugs for pain relief are nothing new to me, and a helluva lot other adoptees I know.
Anyone thinking there's no pain with and behind adoption is simply WRONG.
Comments
Trouble Free?
"the messed-up child that results from such an adult mindset"
I appreciate the way you phrased that thought. The words from that person does imply they are setting themselves and the child up for pain down the road; I truly agree.
I would just like to say, that in my own experience with adoption and knowing many, many adoptive families, that there are problems in every one of the families. But it is not a given that all adopted children go to evil adoptive parents. I'm seeing more and more problems as the children grow up, but again, I'm not seeing the , "Jabbing the skin with needles, using instruments of torture, and seeking drugs for pain relief are nothing new to me, and a helluva lot other adoptees I know." So I'm very concerned for what may be ahead for a lot of the younger adoptees.
I totally believe what you are saying and it is something ALL adoptive parents should be told could happen as their adopted children grow up. I need to understand your pain and suffering. How do we get this message out? How do we draw the adoptive parents to this place to read and share their experiences?
IN A WORLD OF WHY,
Teddy
Baby-steps towards Adoption Awareness
Awareness begins with conversation. Send letters to those with an invested-interest in adoption... TELL THEM THE TRUTHFUL CONSEQUENCES ADOPTION BRINGS EACH FAMILY INVOLVED, and let them know the formal written word written by an industry is not the truth, the whole truth, and their word is not at all in the best interest of a child. Between you and me, I HAVE to believe Prevention and Education is the best form of family intervention and preservation.
Conversation
Exactly what I have been doing: In every conversation I try to have something to say about what has happened to me and especially my children. I've gotten some first hand knowledge of other adoptions they have seen go bad. I intend to go
on this way until I find it within me to write what my experience has been, to the ones who are the PTB.
IN A WORLD OF WHY,
Teddy