The Big Question: What makes a Nice Guy worth keeping?
I've been coming-down on the opposite-sex in one of my blogs, "What in the world could I possibly be thinking when I read this?" because I feel there is a huge amount of harmful-thinking taking place in the dating-scene.
Truth is, no gender is free from making bad choices or bad moves in the love-sex department. We are all human, and we ALL make mistakes. I believe this is how we learn how to get things right in our lives.
I don't think I have ever had a relationship-conversation with a person that didn't ask the question, "How do you find a nice person to fall in love with?
Nice. Is there a worse word to be called than simply "nice"? For most, I think being called Nice to the opposite sex is like saying, "he/she won't hurt you". Nice is vanilla, with no toppings and no surprises. Nice is a pleasant sunny day with no threat of storms. In the real-world WHO can be so Nice, all the time? Doesn't that get a bit boring? For many, being called Nice is the kiss-of-death in a budding relationship, simply because it leaves no room for mistakes.
So when a person says "I want to find a nice person", what is that makes a person nice, and what makes that person worth keeping?
Comments
think twice before dating nice
I would dread the day I dated a nice person; if it works out, it'll mean family visits.
I just wrote that!
The other day I posted about the one guy I was willing to change for, because he seemed so nice. Too nice. The comment is here, http://poundpuplegacy.org/node/18665#comment-4140
I hated how everyone thought I was such a nice girl, only to know there was nothing "nice" about me.
I always felt so ashamed about so many things, I kept people away, and I guess I did that by being really difficult and confusing. I don't know,
All I know is, I hate the idea of being around someone's family. I can't be nice around family members. It feels too fake, and I guess my attitude about families makes me a "not nice" person!
"Nice" can be a relative term
Here's a video that shows how two guys try to be "nice"... to eachother and to the women they are trying to date. (It helps if you have a sick sense of humour....)
Peep Show Double-Dating: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=J4GLXUw2qaI