A few words about ADDICTIONS

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Coffee, cookies, chocolate.  Sports, sex, smoking,  Drugs, diets, drinking.  Pick a demon, any demon.... which one claims the life of someone you know?  Add a dick; shun.  Addiction.

The crazy think about addictions is how they all revolve around love and detachment.  Who doesn't want to experience that mind-numbing rush love's pleasure brings the human brain?  (The only people who avoid human love are the ones who have been hurt badly by it.)   For some, maybe this defines how "happiness" feels, so doesn't it make perfect sense to repeat an act over and over again to feel the same sensation?  Yet, finding love through something is not at all the same as finding love with someone is it?  (Not in my book!)

Can addictions be stopped?

To be honest, I think the best that can happen for a hard-core addict is for one really strong addiction to get broken-down and replaced by many smaller, less toxic ones.  [I laugh at the adoption symbolism here:  take one down, pass it around, until it gets replaced by two or more!] 

Are addictions a disease?

I think addictions are a learned chemical-experience that takes place in the brain, and this experience is based on stress and relief hormones.  "Fright or Flight"  ( http://www.greenwoodwildlife.org/stress.html) and "Pleasure or Pain"  ( http://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2006/10/061019094148.htm ) seem to work together in a way that builds for us a sense of safety and preservation through trial and error.  Depending upon what resources are readily available, different solutions create different slaves to certain relationships, (dysfunctional, or not).  Oddly enough, I think even the most hard-core addict is seeking stability and safety from harm.  For some, the mental/emotional pain inside is so bad, it HAS to be counter-pressured with something, otherwise the stress and strain of that internal pain will become the suicidal death of that person.  I see the "disease-aspect" as a built-in-design caused by the many different toxic options there are being manufactured every day in this world for human-consumption.  For instance, would a person be addicted to porn if it was not so readily available?  Would a person be drawn to drugs if so many pills weren't being pushed as "feel good alternatives"?  I believe the real disease if rooted in artificial quick-fixes.... but then, so few things come easy to me, what do I know?

Is a person born to be an addict?

I don't think any child is born to seek pain and misery -- unfortunately, for some, that may be the only life-experience that child grows to know.   I see simple-math when it comes to a person's addictive-cycle:  Rip away a child's first-love, and that child will more than likely spend a life-time seeking a replacement.  The sooner, the better... and all bets will be off once the new-found love becomes repulsive or uncomfortable.  Perhaps this leveling-off to something that feels unsafe and unstable explains why some seek higher-highs, and others remain content staying with the status-quo they have found for themselves.  Safety is a personal-perspective-thing, based on experience.  For many, the fear of change, itself, can be the greatest grief and pain of all.  (Honestly, who in their right mind wants to lose what feels like safe-love?)

Are addicts helpless?

Only to their feelings of frustration.  (But who isn't?)

What do I know about addicts and addictions?

More than I ever thought I would (or should, for that matter!).  A dear friend once wrote to me, "we do not find our causes, they find us".  I laugh at how right and appropriate her comment really is and was.  <sad smile>

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Baby-steps towards recovery...(no two will be the same)

Most, by now, know about the generic 12-step programs many support-systems offer various addictis.  A discussion about these 12-step programs and the power of cooersion can be found here:  "Here's for you, Neophyte" http://poundpuplegacy.org/node/14795

I believe no two addictions are the same, and yet I find most of the addicts I know are strangely similar in terms of their childhood experiences and life-stories.  As far as I'm concerned, Abuse and Abandonment become life-themes; to think otherwise, is sheer ignorance.  As stated in a recently posted article written in 2006,  "You get into a program, you feel good about who you are, you have a routine every day. And then the first time someone shows an interest in you, you get defocused."  The need to be cared-for and about is so crucial for those who lived "without".  In fact, given the nature of some horrible things some children are forced to experience, is it any wonder why so many stop seeking human-contact when they know the  hand that feeds can quickly hurt or leave?

I have found through my own professional nursing experince, Continuity of Care is the key to long-term success... and perhaps this is  the very concept many adults find lacking in their lives.  "Who cares, in the long run?"

Someone has to care, otherwise what's the point of recovering?  What's the point of trying to "be better" if a person is still dying (inside)?  I think it's tragic how many people are dying alone, or with a complete stranger, simply because that person grew to believe (and accept) "no one really cares".

A new article was posted today in MSN:  "Beyond 12 Steps".  I will include in this post, as a sample of what available options there are for those wanting to overcoming his/her own addictions.

Beyond 12 Steps
MSN Health & Fitness Exclusive

Although addiction and alcoholism treatment research has advanced tremendously since Alcoholics Anonymous was founded in 1935, many people do not know that equally effective alternatives to 12-step programs exist—nor do they know how to find them.  In popular culture, AA is often portrayed as the only way.

Worse, while reality TV spotlights tough family “interventions” as a way of getting people to enter treatment and often shows rehab as a “boot camp” or exercise in humiliation, research finds that both these approaches have significant risks, and other less risky tactics have equivalent or superior benefits.

So, how can you find evidence-based addiction and alcoholism treatment for yourself or a loved one instead of—or as an addition to—12-step approaches?

Here are five “dos” and five “don’ts” that can guide you to the best treatment.

1.  Do start your search for treatment with a full psychological or psychiatric evaluation from an M.D. psychiatrist or Ph.D. psychologist.

At least 50 percent of people with alcohol or other drug addictions have an additional mental illness, such as depression, anxiety, attention-deficit disorder or bipolar disorder. But unfortunately, many addiction counselors do not have the expertise to diagnose these disorders—let alone treat them.

“If you go to a barber, you’re going to get a haircut,” says William Miller, Ph.D., emeritus professor of psychology and psychiatry at the University of New Mexico, a leading expert on addiction treatment. “If you go to a substance abuse treatment center you’ll get substance abuse treatment, but they may not be well-equipped to deal with the other things that come along with it.”

Adds Alan Marlatt, Ph.D., Professor and Director of the Addictive Behaviors Research Center at the University of Washington: “If you get a proper diagnosis and evaluation, someone may be able to offer integrated treatment to deal with both without having to be shunted back and forth between substance abuse and mental health centers.”

Since people with mental illness often self-medicate with addictive drugs, treating those conditions can be critical to starting and sustaining recovery.  However, in many cases, that isn’t enough:  Once someone has developed an addiction, even if the problem that the person was trying to medicate away has been solved, the addiction may continue.

Avoid the chicken-and-egg debate—treat both simultaneously for the best results; also, look for providers who specialize in “dual diagnosis.”

2. Do look for therapists who use “empirically supported” or “evidence-based” treatments like cognitive behavioral therapy or motivational enhancement therapy.

Although many people believe that treatments must be proven to work before they can be used in practice, this is not the case for talk therapies like those used for addictions.  In many states, an addiction counselor doesn’t even need a high school degree—and some inpatient programs for teens are completely unregulated in terms of staff qualifications and basic health and safety requirements.

Fortunately, there are several talk therapies that have been proven to help with addiction.  These include cognitive behavioral therapy, motivational enhancement therapy (sometimes called motivational interviewing) and 12-step facilitation for those who are involved in 12 -step programs.

Cognitive behavioral therapy involves understanding and changing the thinking patterns that produce urges to use psychoactive substances as well as altering habits that drive the addiction.  Motivational interviewing helps people increase their ability to change their addictive behavior, by helping them achieve the goals they personally consider important.  12-step facilitation introduces people to 12-step programs like AA and Narcotics Anonymous and helps them affiliate with these support groups.

Matters are complicated by the fact that some people who claim to use specific techniques know all the right buzzwords but haven’t been trained in the therapy, or don’t apply it correctly.  Ask about specific training; ideally see a practitioner with a master’s degree or higher and for teens, look for such qualifications in those who treat them day-to-day at any program.

3. Do make sure you feel safe and understood by the therapist or treatment approach you choose.

While evidence-based techniques are valuable, their effectiveness relies on the listening skills and empathy of therapists who use them.  In fact, therapists’ abilities in these areas are directly linked to good outcomes.

“You should feel respected and feel that the person is interested in understanding your perspective, not imposing their reality on you,” Miller says. While many people feel that an ex-addict or alcoholic counselor will be more likely to empathize, in fact, the counselor’s own experience is less relevant than her actual skills in relating to clients, he adds:  “’Is this a kind person?’ ‘Did I come away with skills I didn’t have before?’ is a good litmus test.”

4. Do get as much social support as possible—and don’t limit your search to traditional support groups.

The research is clear that social support for a healthy lifestyle is an important part of recovery.  But this doesn’t have to come from 12-step groups—it can come from your friends, family, even from a hobby, church group or other interest group that opposes—or simply doesn’t involve—drinking or other drug use.  “Look for people who are rooting for you to get free,” Miller says. “If you don’t have them in your natural network, it’s important to find them.”

SMART Recovery is one of the largest alternative recovery support groups.  Says Tom Horvath, president of SMART, “We’re pushing 400 groups worldwide, with some in correctional facilities and we have a strong presence online.”  SMART’s website had about 16,000 unique visitors in March.  “It’s a practical, pragmatic, problem-solving approach,” says Horvath, “The tools we incorporate into our meetings have been studied—it’s as close to evidence-based as we can get.”

Other recovery support groups include Women for Sobriety, LifeRing Recovery and, for people with drinking problems who want to moderate but not quit, Moderation Management.  Many churches, temples and mosques also have religion-specific recovery groups.

5. Do consider the use of anti-addiction medications.

Some anti-addiction medications offer considerable help to those trying to kick drugs, when used in conjunction with other support.

For alcohol, naltrexone (reVia) and Vivitrol (a longer acting naltrexone, only needed once a month) help reduce craving by blocking opioid receptors and reducing the “high” from drinking.

Acamprosate (Campral) works by calming the brain’s glutamate system, which is believed to be over-active during alcohol withdrawal and thereafter (though some studies failed to find a benefit) and disulfiram (Antabuse) produces an extremely unpleasant reaction if alcohol is consumed.

Interestingly, Antabuse also seems to reduce cocaine use—and not just by making it impossible for people to drink while trying to come down or by causing a bad reaction to cocaine.  “Something’s going on,” says Frank Vocci, Ph.D., director of the Division of Pharmacotherapy for the National Institute on Drug Abuse. “We’re not quite sure what.”

Two other medications that are approved by the U.S. Food and Drug Administration for other conditions, topiramate (Topamax) and ondansetron (Zotran), have also been found to help alcoholics quit.  “There’s sufficient evidence for physicians to feel comfortable prescribing them,” says Vocci.

For heroin or painkiller addiction, buprenorphine (Suboxone, Subutex) can be used either for detox or for maintenance and can be prescribed by doctors, not just specialized clinics. 

Methadone is also useful, especially for those who have used opioids for long periods of time at high doses. Maintenance treatment does not mean that the person is still “high” or “not really in recovery”—neither methadone nor buprenorphine produces ongoing impairment when used as prescribed.

For methamphetamine, new research suggests that for people who use less than 18 times a month, the antidepressant bupropion (Wellbutrin) may help increase abstinence.

6. Don’t accept treatment that is confrontational, humiliating or degrading.

For much of the 20th century, addiction treatment involved humiliating rituals like being “confronted” and having your personality flaws attacked in brutal detail. “There’s no evidence that it’s helpful and there is evidence that it’s harmful,” says Miller, “Don’t buy the line that it’s good for you or the only language your addicted child can understand.  There’s no scientific evidence for it—it’s simply cruelty.”

7. Don’t think a formal “intervention,” in which family members confront the addict about his or her problem, is the only way to help.

Although the reality show “Intervention” presents this as current practice, there are gentler, more productive techniques. Community Reinforcement and Family Therapy has been found to be twice as effective in helping families get loved ones into recovery. A book on how to do it if you can’t find a local therapist who practices it is now available.

Traditional interventions can produce family rifts and are even implicated in some suicides.  “The evidence doesn’t support it,” Marlatt says. “Courtney Love pulled together an intervention on [rock star] Kurt Cobain. A few days later, he committed suicide.”

In contrast, CRAFT offers positive steps to help families attract their loved ones into recovery.  It teaches practical techniques to families which involve helping the addicted member associate negative consequences with substance use and offering hope, rather than fear, to motivate change.

8. Don’t assume inpatient treatment is superior to outpatient treatment.

People tend to believe that more expensive is better—but in fact, research doesn’t find costly inpatient rehab to be superior to outpatient, except for people who are homeless.

“It’s marketed to parents—‘Mortgage your house to pay for our treatment to save your kid’s life,’” Miller says. “But ultimately, the kid has to deal with life back in the community. They’ll say, ‘Sure, you need aftercare.’  Well, what is aftercare?  Outpatient treatment!  And then the question is why you need hospitalization to begin with.”

“It’s not a sprint, it’s a marathon,” says Horvath, “If you only have a limited amount of money to spend, it’s better to spend over a longer period of time than a shorter one.”

Vocci notes that if people stick with any kind of treatment for 90 days or more, the outcomes are much better.  “We don’t know why, but that does seem to be the case,” he says.

9. Don’t use a facility for “troubled teens” that treats multiple disorders with a one-size-fits-all approach.

Some “boot camps,” “wilderness programs” and “emotional growth boarding schools” are marketed to parents as solutions for addiction problems.  There is no evidence that these are more effective than alternatives which have proven results—and because the regulations on these programs are lax (in some states, non-existent), they can be dangerous.  These programs also claim to treat other disorders like depression and Asperger’s syndrome—but the treatment is not individualized.  “One size does not fit all,” says Marlatt.

10. Don’t give up!

Studies find that smokers—who have what addicts with experience kicking multiple drugs say is the hardest addiction to quit—often try nearly a dozen times before they succeed.  “When someone says, ‘I can’t do it, I’ve relapsed four times,’ I say, keep trying, you’re not even halfway there yet,” says Marlatt.

“Persistence is the greatest virtue in recovery,” says Horvath, “If you keep making mistakes but work to understand them, eventually you will run out of mistakes to make.  In SMART, we say, if you slip or relapse, please come talk about it because everyone will learn from it.”

“We are blessed with a nice range of evidence-based treatments,” says Miller, “If what you are trying isn’t working, try something else."

Maia Szalavitz is a freelance journalist and senior fellow at media watchdog, stats.org.She is co-author with Bruce D. Perry, MD, PhD, of The Boy Who Was Raised as a Dog and Other Stories from a Child Psychiatrist's Notebook: What Traumatized Children Can Teach Us About Loss, Love and Healing (Basic, 2007).

URL: http://health.msn.com/health-topics/addiction/articlepage.aspx?cp-documentid=100202307>1=31033

Addict

Yes...addiction...I have an almost perverted attraction to the word "ADDICTION" that is I salivate at the mere thought of feeding it and find curing it almost repugnent.......ahhh that's better. I guess all addictions will ever be is the longing to feel normal...I mean we taste the forbidden fruit and no longer feel 'normal' until we can have it again.....oh I am so weak...perhaps it is a subservient thing....just running off to have another ciggy...hmmm

Filling the void

I've always seen addictive behaviors as a ways and means to fill a void.  In my case, that void is feeling love.  It's only been recently that I noticed my unpredictable cycle of addictions follow a method of madness that patterns after the polar-love I have always known:  all or none.

 

Filling da void

I say all......btw I will out my love for you Kerry.....happy to fill a void......UC

<wicked giggle>

The reformed Anorexic-Bulemic in me says:  "If only I could accept and keep the love you give me."

Don't you have to...

Don't you have to believe in love before you can keep it?  To really SEE that it exists was what made me able to
accept it for myself. 
Love hurts!  But through the pain, is where the love is at. 
I don't think love can be acquired  from someone who hasn't received it and kept it yet; someone who doesn't know pain or believe that love is real. 
We need to find an innocent someone who believes in love and is not afraid to give that love.  I believe that's why
a mother's love is so special as SHE receives that pure love from her infant who trusts her and is able to return that
pure love. 
Mess with the first mother-love and love mutates; leaving that child unable to accept love from another, and that mother
unable to totally accept married love. 
When adoption became excessive, it became routine.  To love a child routinely destroys a child; and the a-mother
becomes insecure..... on and on and on and on.....................................

IN A WORLD OF WHY,
Teddy

Love's Promise

I think "keeping something" is far different from keeping the experience of a welcome-return.

From a letting-go perspective, I have no problems accepting the fickle nature of pleasure.  Nothing can be kept and maintained without change.  The question for me has always been:  will that good feeling return?  Dare I believe nothing has changed since I have been away?  [From an adoption-experience, surely you can see how complicated this suggestion can be in the mind that feels fragile and vulnerable with hungry want and need.] 

More often than not, the returned feeling from people in my life has been far more negative than positive.  Give and take in terms of effort has always been unequal and imballanced, so for me, love's promise of safety and security are absurdities that simply don't work for me.

Is it any wonder, then, from a hunger-perspective, why a person seeks the return of an inhuman object to the human-feeling experience?  Safety and security get twisted in meaning once rules of love's games become lost and revisited.  For myself, I have learned the guarantee of pleasure, in many ways, will most often come from that which I don't desire.  (Weird, ain't it?)

I HAD TO READ THIS AGAIN

  PLEASURE FROM THAT WHICH I DON'T DESIRE.....

Re-Weaving Our Pleasure

We all long for pleasure. Some of us can hold little bits of it; some can allow alot of it in one area of our life, but very little in other areas; some of us are consciously working to allow more and more pleasure in our lives. The truth is ... most of us can't tolerate the level of pleasure we Know exists in the universe. We need to heal and develop our many bodies -- physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual -- so that we can tolerate pleasure! so that we can stand the pleasure that is available to us.

We forget this truth, although we Know it in our souls. We forget this truth and focus on our longing. We forget this truth and reach for pleasure, grab for pleasure, binge for pleasure.

It is our longing for pleasure that will lead us through the fire of healing toward the pleasure we desire. Our longing is a potent force, for it is generated from our memory of Pleasure's existence and our experience of it in Spirit. And yes! we want it!

Even with our longing and positive intent for pleasure, however, where we don't allow it in our lives, our pleasure somehow unconsciously has been interwoven with the negative. It is at this point that we need to search and find where that joining is within us; to heal it to its roots, and to free our pleasure at last.

It is difficult for us to acknowledge, even to ourselves, the pleasure we have attached to the negative, for we have come to bring great shame to this truth. But if we don't release the shame and acknowledge the negative pleasure ... we will not be able to tease our pleasure away from the negative and bring it home where it belongs.

In honesty . . . notice the words "sweet revenge" and "delicious cruelty" that indicate to us how we have attached our pleasure to the negative. Pay attention to the negative pleasure that fills our newspapers, televisions, and often our movie theaters ... as well as our secret dreams and fantasies. Pay attention to little moments in your life, moments you might want to hide from, where you feel a pleasure in relation to something negative.

And let this lead you to know it is time! Time to open-heartedly and open-mindedly reveal to ourselves this aspect of our healing. Time to consciously, purposefully tease our pleasure away from the negative and re-weave it back into its true home of the positive.

Contact Judith Barr


different context

When I wrote:

PLEASURE FROM THAT WHICH I DON'T DESIRE.....

that actually meant I could always will myself to do things I didn't like, finding pleasure in the fact that at least someone was made happy through me.  Maybe that's the masochistic martyred adoptee in me... I don't know, but I always felt my life was not my own to enjoy as I wanted it to be.  Oddly enough, all happiness in my family came from tangibles, so as long as I have the ability to "achieve", I could make someone either happy, (or really disappointed and angry).  There is no winning in such a proof-earning world, which helps explain to me why so many turn to something that helps numb the senses, even if it's for a short while.  [There's a neuro-chemical, (hormonal) basis to this, but I won't bore you with science when the discussion is more "personal"]

[Refer to my poll question that asks: " Do you deny yourself certain pleasures?"  http://poundpuplegacy.org/node/20531]

In terms of the above article, "Pleasure in the negative" is very different from "pleasure in getting it right", wouldn't you agree?

AGREED!

Is that the same as my always having to be my mother's happiness?  I had to be there.  I had to drop everything and be there for whatever was right or wrong for her.  No... I don't think mine was the same at all.  I found no pleasure in making her happy with me because there was never an end to it.   It was an ongoing thing until she died. 
With my children it is different because I find pleasure in bringing them happiness:  letting them decide; enjoying their happiness by discovering their choices were better than mine; just watching what I never experienced brings me pleasure.
There is a difference.

IN A WORLD OF WHY,
 Teddy