Pound Pup Legacy

I read an article about a new-age pot demonstration, and I had to laugh at the code-word given to it:  "420".  The first thing that same to my mind was the phrase:  "They'll deep 6 the 420 in no time".  After all, pot can easily be confiscated and destroyed, eliminating the pesky drug problem for today's youthful population, right?

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Coded-conversations fascinate me because they're typically used to keep nosey-bodies out of certain people's business.  Almost all businesses use some sort of cryptic language; they're called S.O.P's  (Standards of Operation).  Hospitals and law enforcement use "codes"; retail stores use "tools"; schools use papers filled with "policy and procedures".  Each group shares its own language, so each person can understand the rules of the game within their own operation.

I have learned, adults who have been adopted or placed in foster care have their own language that chronically keeps them from being fully understood by friends, "family" and therapists, alike.

I call the blank-stare we get in conversations The Deer in Headlights Look, and too much of that can easily send a victim into a downward spiral that goes back to the deep dark Abyss most mistake as "simple, classic severe depression".  I think it's a serious health-hazard when a person seeking help or treatment is wrongly diagnosed and medicated because the problems/issues cannot be understood by those "trained" to help those in troubled danger.

Case in point:  "adopted late 60's; never understood; looking for 411 on 911 situations"

How many understand that describes an adoptee born in the late 1960's, seeking help from a hideous living situation, but no one understands how difficult it is to leave?  Depressed, or desperate for change?

Here's more examples:  "Korean adoptee, learned she was trafficked".  "Child sent to Home in UK, razed by the C of E".  "Adopted by an extended family member."

Or... "Fostered, owned, and never returned"  Prone to irrational, detached behavior, or not at all understood?

My concerns are simple:   What needs to be done to help the bajillions of people hurt by the language-difference child-placement imposes on an individual?  If the "special needs" of a person aren't understood, how can that individual be helped?  Does anyone care what ultimately happens to the child placed "in care"?  I'm just kurious...