Honest Opinions Wanted
Every day I peruse various blogs and websites to read what's going on in the adoption community, as it affects all sides touched by a hugely profiting industry.
I found a page today that I need to share, with the hope that others will offer their honest opinions about what is written in terms of pregnancy, adoption, and feelings of regret.
http://www.americanadoptions.com/pregnant/start?PHPSESSID=50dbe2b89f43ee07f6508570961b791f#start6
Any and all sides are welcome to share their perspective on this specific page. ~k
Comments
Pass me the saccharine, please
To me this reads like average adoption agency's propaganda page. Over the years agencies have of course learned how to sound understanding when it comes to mother's looking for adoption. They acknowledge the pain encountered in the process, but usually move to happier grounds and make it all look much more controlable than it actually is.
All private agency's bottom line is to deliver children to prospective adopters, that is where the money is, that is where the power lies. So they sound really understanding and caring, but their mind is made up, they want the baby, hence lines like:
Has anyone noticed how little the child is mentioned, as if to keep it as abstract as possible, as something that will find it's happiness with these wonderful people the agency has so carefully hand picked.
Positive Propaganda, for more profits
The one statement that makes me choke is "CHOOSING adoption (relinquishing all parental rights so your child is forever taken away from you and that child's extended family) is the most loving and unselfish decision that you can make."
Really?
Choosing replacement parts is better than original design?
Is a child not an extension of a family-body? Is it better to fix what is originally available, or is it better to produce a new product that can replace the old unusable part? In the long-run, which is more cost-effective and less risky in terms of outcome safety: using natural resources readily found and improving their functions, or researching and re-creating an artificial replacement piece that does not guarantee positive results and offers serious life-threatening complications of its own?
For example, consider what it takes to give consent and approval for a total hip or knee replacement. Anyone know how painful either proceedure is, and how long it takes to get partial use and function? I don't buy the idea that allowing the private sale of a child from a healthy mother benefits anyone other than the profiting people behind that baby-sale.
Think there is no fall-out from infant-child-transfer? All one has to do is look at what parents with RAD chidren have to endure and who is paying for rehab programs needed for adult-children messed and mixed-up from the confusion adoption has brought into their lives. Look into prison statistics, and ask how many inmates came from happy adoption stories. If humans are the by-products of our environment, what does crime-rate and institutionalism of the adult and youth population say about the state of child-care and protection?
Where is THAT side of the adoption story... and why isn't that publicized as the risk-factor parents need to consider when "CHOOSING" what's best for baby?
Pro-Choice should be based on facts, not falacy and wishful thinking.
Yuk
Yuk, simple as that, what more do I need to say