Playing Sick Puppies - Still the Same
Mon, 2008-01-14 21:33 - Kerry
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I dont mind where you come from
As long as you come to me
But I dont like illusions I cant see
Them clearly
I dont care, no I wouldn't dare
To fix the twist in you
You've shown me eventually what you'll do
I dont mind
I dont care
As long as you're here
[Chorus]
Go ahead and tell me you'll leave again
You'll just come back running
Holding your scarred heart in hand
It's all the same
And I'll take you for who you are
If you take me for everything
And do it all over again
It's all the same
Hours slide and days go by
Till you decide to come
But in-between it always seems too long
Suddenly
But I have the skill, yeah
I have the will, to breath you in while I can
However long you stay is all that I am
I dont mind, I dont care
As long as you're here
Go ahead and tell me you'll leave again
You'll just come back running
Holding your scarred heart in hand
It's all the same
And I'll take you for who you are
If you take me for everything
And do it all over again
It's always the same
Wrong or Right
Black or White
If I close my eyes
Its all the same
In my life
The compromise
I'll close my eyes
Its all the same
Go ahead say it
You're leaving
You'll just come back running
Holding your scarred heart in hand
It's all the same
And I'll take you for who you are now
If you take me for everything
Do it all over again
It's all the same
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Unconditional acceptance of another
There was a time, not too long ago, when I could not understand how or why a person would tolerate certain behaviors with another person -- and it had to be explained to me, "it's love".
It's what?
What does "love" got to do with it, exactly?
That's when I started to think about my own children. I love my children because they came from me, and I remember how much I went through to keep them with me, even when I was so alone and afraid and not at all sure I knew what I was doing. Somehow they never found fault with me, and I needed that. I was enough for them; I made their world complete, and that gave them toothless smiles... and that brought tears to my eyes... and we were complete in our happiness together.
I have often told people,
"I wish I had my kids before getting married"
Love and marriage are not one in the same. Trusting another person not to leave is impossible; believing that person will return is based on hope and faith. Fear and frustration is often what's left, if that void doesn't get filled with something positive.
The question is, what do we do that's positive, that fills that void?
"still the same"
Nothing stays the same, and in fact, that's the scary thing about relationships, at least for me it is - the fear of things always changing, or not changing, and remaing bad.
"still the same" can be really bad, and not at all acceptable.
What do I do to fill the void that's positive? That's what I'm still learning about myself. I don't know what I like to do to make me happy. I always had to make other people happy, by doing what they wanted, and that always sucked for me. That's the hard thing about coming to terms about being abused and adopted: pleasing people is so much about the other people, it has nothing to do with what makes me happy or feel good about myself.
It was never about me, but I had to keep quiet, because of someone else. Letting go of that is hard, because it means I have to stop letting people treat me the same crappy way as I always have.
The same, but different
I've found that finding similar, shared experiences and needs help bond two people in ways that keeps them together. Some people require misery to keep them company; others require something more positive and motivating to be productive.
Togetherness, and keeping that happy and successful, can be a funny thing.