Choosing one isn't easy, especially when each one is a stranger. For myself, I'd be most curious about a sibling. Was this sibling adopted, too? I figure, with a sibling, I'd have more options and alternatives that go beyond face-value of "family member". With a sibling, it would be interesting to see what develops, over time, with the relationship.
I could just imagine finding everything I ever wanted in another person, in someone I am biologically related to. What if there was a physical attraction? That would freak the shit out of me! I would hate to meet face-to-face with someone and not know where and what the boundaries were in the relationship. That would really confuse me, so I would hate to be rude by refusing a reunion, so I would delay my decision by pretending I didn't get the notification. That would buy me time to figure crap out for myself. Ultimately, I would more than likely not meet with anyone, but be glad that the opportunity was available.
Twins who were separated at birth have married each other, unaware that they were brother and sister.
Each had been adopted by a different family, with neither being told they had a twin.
A High Court judge annulled the marriage after the couple discovered they were siblings, the House of Lords has been told.
The judge ruled that the marriage had never validly existed.
The couple's identities, along with details of how they met and fell in love, remain a closely-guarded secret.
But the cross-bench peer Lord Alton, who told the Lords the case had been revealed to him by the judge involved, said the pair had felt an "inevitable attraction".
He raised the case to illustrate the need for adopted children to be given full access to their birth records during a debate on the Human Fertilisation and Embryology Bill last month.
Lord Alton said: "They were never told they were twins. They met later in life and felt an inevitable attraction, and the judge had to deal with the consequences of their marriage that they entered into, and all the issues of their separation.
"The right for children to know the identity of their biological parents is a human right.
"There will be more cases like this if children are not given access to the truth. The needs of the child must always be paramount.
"If you start trying to conceal someone's identity, sooner or later the truth will out.
"And if you don't know you are biologically related someone, you may become attracted to them and tragedies like this may occur."
The Government has faced stiff opposition over changes to fertility laws in the Human Fertilisation and Embryology Bill.
The changes, which are being debated in the House of Lords, would relax rules on who can have fertility treatment, with fertility clinics unable to bar single women and same-sex couples from having treatment.
Critics say the Bill removes the need for fathers and will make it more difficult for children to find out about their biological parents.
Ministers have already been forced to rewrite the bill following objections by peers to the original wording.
It had said children born through fertility treatment needed a "social network", not a father and mother.
The Lords will vote on the revised bill on Tuesday.
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Decisions, choices, and "what are my other alternatives?"
Choosing one isn't easy, especially when each one is a stranger. For myself, I'd be most curious about a sibling. Was this sibling adopted, too? I figure, with a sibling, I'd have more options and alternatives that go beyond face-value of "family member". With a sibling, it would be interesting to see what develops, over time, with the relationship.
my biggest fear
I could just imagine finding everything I ever wanted in another person, in someone I am biologically related to. What if there was a physical attraction? That would freak the shit out of me! I would hate to meet face-to-face with someone and not know where and what the boundaries were in the relationship. That would really confuse me, so I would hate to be rude by refusing a reunion, so I would delay my decision by pretending I didn't get the notification. That would buy me time to figure crap out for myself. Ultimately, I would more than likely not meet with anyone, but be glad that the opportunity was available.
Would THIS be your biggest fear?
Marriage of twins fuels adoption row
By Gordon Rayner, Chief Reporter, telegraph.co.uk
Last Updated: 2:49am GMT 13/01/2008
Twins who were separated at birth have married each other, unaware that they were brother and sister.
Each had been adopted by a different family, with neither being told they had a twin.
A High Court judge annulled the marriage after the couple discovered they were siblings, the House of Lords has been told.
The judge ruled that the marriage had never validly existed.
The couple's identities, along with details of how they met and fell in love, remain a closely-guarded secret.
But the cross-bench peer Lord Alton, who told the Lords the case had been revealed to him by the judge involved, said the pair had felt an "inevitable attraction".
He raised the case to illustrate the need for adopted children to be given full access to their birth records during a debate on the Human Fertilisation and Embryology Bill last month.
Lord Alton said: "They were never told they were twins. They met later in life and felt an inevitable attraction, and the judge had to deal with the consequences of their marriage that they entered into, and all the issues of their separation.
"The right for children to know the identity of their biological parents is a human right.
"There will be more cases like this if children are not given access to the truth. The needs of the child must always be paramount.
"If you start trying to conceal someone's identity, sooner or later the truth will out.
"And if you don't know you are biologically related someone, you may become attracted to them and tragedies like this may occur."
The Government has faced stiff opposition over changes to fertility laws in the Human Fertilisation and Embryology Bill.
The changes, which are being debated in the House of Lords, would relax rules on who can have fertility treatment, with fertility clinics unable to bar single women and same-sex couples from having treatment.
Critics say the Bill removes the need for fathers and will make it more difficult for children to find out about their biological parents.
Ministers have already been forced to rewrite the bill following objections by peers to the original wording.
It had said children born through fertility treatment needed a "social network", not a father and mother.
The Lords will vote on the revised bill on Tuesday.