Vasectomies, virility; dating and availability. How does this affect the adult adoptee?
For years I have have many-an-email with male Pound Pups who have had their seminal-strings snipped. (spelled "vasectomy") It seems fatherhood brought-out huge personal issues for these guys, sex and fear of future pregnancy being a main concern.
I wonder, as divorce is a fact-of life in our culture, and second chances are granted all the time, how are men dealing with the dating scene when they tell a newly-found woman they can no longer provide a child for a hoping blushing bride?
Comments
Snip
I've never had any children and never really wanted them, not because I dislike children, but because I don't want to become a parent. Not knowing whether I am fertile or not, this has always caused me to be worried when having sex. So far I have not had the snipping done, but it is time I did.
Fear or Dread?
Does age or being adopted yourself (fear/dread of parenting) have more of a factor in this decision?
Dreading
Now being 42, I dare make that decision. So age is certainly a factor in this. At an earlier age I would have found it premature, but now I can make that decision, knowing I won't regret it later on. It's not because of a dislike of children, but I know I would dread parenting the moment it would feel an obligation.
"Obligation"
What is it that makes you fear or dread that word?
unmotherly needs
It's not so much dreading a word as well as dreading a circumstance. Maybe it sound really selfish, but I wouldn't want to share my love with children, if it were up to me. I much more need a woman next to me than a mother.